In a relationship for several years with a loving man, who has three children. The eldest 22, the second 20 and the last 16 give me a hard time. In addition to disembarking at any time without warning, they question my authority. They disrespect me even in front of strangers. They refuse to help me with the housework. I've tried to talk about it a few times but it always ends badly. I am exhausted and I don't know what to do.

Dear friend, it is not easy what you are going through. When you decide to hang out with someone, you take them with their past. Like it or not, this is a reality and when it is mismanaged it can create a problem in the home. You won't be able to win this battle by bickering all the time or whatever. Find a way like dialogue, respect, good communication, so you will have peace, so you will find solutions when a problem arises. Everyone in the mode has to make an effort, compromise and avoid pushing back and forth.